Social Media: I Don’t Get It

The balance between over saturation and obscurity. I’m not sure where the line begins or ends, really. My blog, for instance, usually has a guest post/book promo on Fridays. On Wednesdays, I attempt to have something remotely original. Of course I don’t always hold fast to that rule. My true balancing act is keeping something going here and working on my latest project while working my bread winner 9 to 5 job.

wpid-20140517_210903.jpgI’ve followed blogs that post everyday.Thousands of words and huge lists I have trouble focusing on and ultimately, it loses my interest. The sad part is the content is great. On the other hand, I follow a blog that posts nearly everyday but limits the post–except for the occasional guest spot–to around 250 words, 500 at the most. That’s about a page worth of text. It makes for a light read and engaging conversation. I try to do this concept but admit that sometimes I, too, go over.

Don’t get me wrong–I’ve read 100k books in record time. However, I always switch to a book of short stories or a novella afterwards. It’s a snack between seven course meals so to speak.

Being a writer also means I have to promote my books. Sure my publisher does some of the leg work but ultimately I’m the one that needs to push my latest novel. What’s the balance? On Facebook, I have a rule of trying to do one post a day. This blog is attached to it so that’s at least two a weeks taken care of. Still, I can fall short and I love to engage.

But what about Facebook groups or other social media such as Twitter, messageboards, Pinterest, and the like? I’ve seen select groups have the same author pummel a group with post after post about their latest and greatest. Personally, it turns me off. I read a post a while back that nailed a lot of do and do not’s of Facebook.

I won’t even get into how I was ‘duped’ into joining Pinterest.

I have several drafts, this a former one, of topics I wanted to write about. I hope to do that soon. My main focus, however, will be on some unfinished manuscripts. Resolutions  aren’t my thing. It’s like drawing a line and laughing at it as I walk away.

One thing, though this whole social media is daunting for an introvert like me, I will make sure I answer anyone who converses with me. I don’t ever want to forget that.

That’s for reading my gibberish. 🙂



The Power of Hate and Consequences of the Narrow-minded #facethehate

On Facebook, I follow Michael Stokes Photography. I find his photos beautiful and truly works of art. The delightful way he showcases the male body without opening showing the dangly bits is genius. Quite honestly, I find them more breathtaking.


Read and behold the ignorance that still exists.

Enter the hater. Click on the image if you can’t read it. The name is blocked out because the person who posted it did so, not me. Normally I would have done the same thing. I don’t like dogpiles for the most part. However, I’m getting pretty disgusted at the double standards out there. Here’s your first reading lesson: Inside Facebook’s Outsourced Anti-Porn and Gore Brigade, Where ‘Camel Toes’ are More Offensive Than ‘Crushed Heads’.

Why do people think they need to be everyone’s moral compass? I don’t give a flying fuckaroni if she’s a preacher’s daughter. I know a preacher. I count him as a very good friends and he’d never raise his children to breed hate like the mumps through the NHL (..too soon?)

There’s this, like, feature on Facebook that, like, you can hide photos and stuff? /sarcasm

I don’t know what’s worse about this lady’s response to Michael.

  • Her lack of intelligence through poor use of the English language
  • The preachiness of her saying she knows the ‘love thy neighbor’ clause but going to ruin him
  • Or the bit about pornographic material or that he racist ….what?

NEWS FLASH: you need to like the page or have friends that repost it to see it. I wonder if she’s ruining her friends as well. Hell, she’s already murdered the English language.

I’m all in thinking that Facebook has some pretty fucked up rules and let’s face the facts–everyone has their own gauge on where the line is on some of the things listed in that article. Please don’t argue they’re a privately owned company either because they’re also a publicly traded company. Oh there’s this bit below to ponder.

Facebook’s Mission Statement

Founded in 2004, Facebook’s mission is to give people the power to share and make the world more open and connected. People use Facebook to stay connected with friends and family, to discover what’s going on in the world, and to share and express what matters to them.

One of the photos to be taken down showed a veteran who had lost part of his leg serving his country. No cock and balls shoot or butt crack to be seen. Just a powerful image of a man who didn’t let his disability defeat him. It inspired other vets n the same situation but some religious zealot took it upon themselves to wage war on what they perceived as ‘sin’. I think they forget the verse about ‘love thy neighbor‘ or ‘judge lest ye be judged‘. Oh I could go on for days with these quotes. I’m a church goer myself yet here I am … writing erotic romance.

Granted, Facebook initially put it back on and apologized but it doesn’t matter when Michael has taken down all his photos that inspired so many from his Facebook page after the last ban.


Her review on a book that she never bought. Thanks, Amazon!


MIchael’s response. Very well said.



The 'tons' of 'unbiased' reviews McCunty has done.

The ‘tons’ of ‘unbiased’ reviews McCunty has done.

I leave you with this. RAWR.

Now if you’ll excuse me, I got some church going to do. 😉

Facebook and the Writer: A Love Story


wpid-20140607_124807.jpgSince diving into the publishing world, I’ve met a lot of fellow writers. We all use social media sites in some way. A good bit of them not only publish under their real name but have Facebook accounts where numerous people can friend them. I’ve seen a lot of worms wiggling out of the can because of it. One friend in particular keeps getting photos reported as breaking the rules set by Facebook even though there is no nudity. I wonder why someone would befriend her only to turn around and do that? Especially when she makes no bones about what type of writing she dabbles in.

It’s a bit of a tricky business. We want to connect with readers yet there is always an element just waiting to holier than thou you into a blackout for a couple of days or whatever the ban hammer layeth on you. Plus, a more ugly side if you ask me, is the numerous creeptards who think we live the lives inside our books. I get this under my normal account and I don’t broadcast what I write on my wall. Or at least the extent of it.

So, since I use a pen name, I decided to create a page instead. Now this was also because I didn’t want to log in and out between accounts mainly. Yeah, I’m lazy like that. Plus, it gives the reader an option to ‘like’ my page instead of wading through the waiting list for me to friend back. So, I can interact with readers in a friendly environment. Unlike groups and personal pages, by clicking the ‘like’ button on my page you’re understanding what that page is intended for. While I haven’t had the ‘pleasure’ of getting ban hammered yet, I think it decreases my chances. Not to say I can’t see someone douching out and ‘liking’ an author page just to report them.

18 or older, folks. That’s what my page is marked. So by wary, my fellow writers just starting out or those who have been jogging around the block for a while. While we love sharing our personal life with our readers to be more ‘human’, beware that there are going to be people who don’t like what you do. They will find ways to rain on your parade. Protect yourself and use the pages option on Facebook. It’s free and nearly troll free.