We All Need to Get Over Ourselves

Wake me up when this bullshit passes.

Wake me up when this bullshit passes.

Reviews are a tricky business. Back when I did them–a looong time ago–I always injected a little bit of snark. It’s in my nature to do so. There were books I loved and books I loathed. With each one, I attempted to at least show some good in each novel. Sometimes it was pulling teeth to find something. Eventually I decided that I wouldn’t post anymore reviews unless I had more positive than negative. Besides, that’s not my gig here to do reviews. I’m just not into it. I like to read at my own pace. On Goodreads, I have a three or more star rule. If I can’t give it at least three stars, I delete the book from my shelf and speak on it no more.

So, through a private site I belong to, I found out about a Blogger Blackout. The anchor, it seems, to this idea was when Kathleen Hale–who I admit is way bat shit crazy–chronicled her stalking a book blogger who gave her a less than savory review. Not having the other side of the coin makes it hard to pass clear judgment but Dear Author, as they do, analyzes it in their own way. Interesting points, to say the least.

Look, stalking is wrong. The lengths that Hale went through are criminal or near to it but without the person in question coming out, there’s really not much of a case. That’s the way the chips fall. Besides, the nice veil of the internet allows people to walk around, asses out, to show their anonymous tattoo in a scrawling script.

From the Ellora’s Cave derpiness to human interaction through the computer akin to monkeys throwing poo lately, I’m just sick of it all. It’s great that people band together to support a cause. I can’t discount the power of that. What I can’t abide by is mob mentality. I’ve been victimized and lumped into a group that I had nothing to do with because of people adopting this philosophy. I kept to the advice I give to others–I didn’t react to it. The fire fades if you don’t throw any fuel on it.

Every author has gotten a bad review, no matter how big they are. It’s the nature of the beast and it’s not going to change anytime soon. My personal favorite that I’ve received remarked how they hated the sex between the man and woman … in my strictly m/m novel. I snickered and moved along. I have no room in my life to slink around or curl up and cry over a bad review. I get over it. I’m doing what I love and to let someone ruin that? No fucking way.

As an author, I appreciate anyone who takes the time to read something I created. Lord knows reading a book takes valuable time plus typing away at the keys to post the review. Everyone is entitled to their opinions on said books. I’ve even thought on some reviews and said to myself ‘man, they have a valid point’. Blog reviewers are just as important as the authors that write the books they review. We need each other, plain and simple.

But I have to ask one thing–can’t we all just get over ourselves? Can we please stop the intimidation through social media and all the verbal diarrhea?  Authors–suck up the bad reviews and do not react to them in any public form or criticism about the content you write. Scream into your pillow at night and soldier on. Review bloggers–can we use a little more tact in the way reviews are written? Take a bad review to a whole new level that makes the author go “thank you, may I have another?” We are all human, full of emotions. Just as authors use pen names, bloggers should be free to use one too. Freedom is a wonderful liberty. However, on both sides of the coin, it doesn’t give anyone the right to verbally demoralize someone or gang up on a blogger/author when you disagree with their opinions.

Just because opinions are like assholes doesn’t give anyone the right to act like one too.

One thing before I close–I recommend everyone read this blogger’s post on the blackout. I like their point of view on this whole subject.

Be kind and be well, people. Find the joy and drop the hate.

One More Way to Combat Piracy

Ah the never ending loop of sending takedown notices only to see the same sites repopulate your copyrighted materials through another user. It’s a vicious cycle and unfortunately won’t be squashed any time soon because pirate sites don’t care. So how can we further combat the problem? Let me share you something that was passed on to me.

You know that old phrase when you’re searching for something on the internet called “Just Google it”? There’s your answer.

wpid-20140807_000838.jpgFun fact: Most of the file pirate sites get their money (it takes a LOT of money to run a file sharing site) through click-through links, ad money, etc. Unless, of course, they’re distributing malware with the files which many do. That makes me all warm inside to think that people illegally downloading copyrighted material might get a little nefarious virus on their computer that could potentially crash or steal information. Karma, bitches.

So one way to choke them off is to remove the links from Google, the biggest search engine out there. Whether other search engines give you the same recourse, I have no idea. I searched on Bing and turned up nada. So, if you choke off the access points AKA searchable pages, the average person who isn’t a “file sharer” and who doesn’t know any better will have a harder time finding those files. Hard core asshole pirates won’t be deterred, unfortunately. All you can hope for is they eat a bad dose of fast food and bleed out through their ass.

Where do you go to report a link to Google? Right here —-> https://www.google.com/webmasters/tools/dmca-dashboard?hl=en

File DMCA complaints through that link and make sure to include all the information.

The more people who complain about the same websites will eventually get Google’s notice, and then Google will start delisting the whole site for repetitive violations. Due diligence is a must. Tell the other authors from your publisher or social group and tell them about the sites you find. Encourage them to also hammer out a DMCA complaint via the Google link above.

Another addition to the piracy-fighting toolbox: If the site is a WordPress-hosted site (read: free), as opposed to a privately hosted WordPress site, you can file a complaint about the site here —> http://automattic.com/dmca/  A good way to tell is the link will read “http://website.wordpress.com” , much like the url for my blog. Why report it? It’s a violation to their TOS and they’ll yank it down.

Use Search engine optimization on your own website. This makes your site be the first thing that pops up when someone searches for your pen name. Make the purchase links clear and concise. Don’t make them search for a legit way of getting your book.

As always, don’t engage in a verbal spat with a scum-sucking pirate site. Just get the word out to your fellow authors, preferably in private nooks of the internet. Never directly advertise a pirate site by making a vitriol post about them. Keep their name out of it it or it’s like you’re promoting their douchebaggery.

Unexpected by J. J. Lore

This is one hot multi-author series that is blazing across the galaxy. Alien races from across the stars looking for the perfect human female to call their own.


By J. J. Lore

Evernight Publishing

Published 3 October 2013

Blurb: As two Alphan warriors on the fast track to promotion and improved status, Mikel and Felix of the Tauride have their future planned out. They intend to go from performing security duties for the Prince while he visits Earth to eventually earning the right to seek out their human mate and rescue her in some dramatic way, impressing her and earning her love. But a chance encounter with a lovely young woman sends them both down a markedly different path.  Shy Alisa Sorrel merely wanted to see a rose garden, then retreat back to her safe and sequestered life in the Women’s Refuge on Earth, but once she encounters two earnest and determined Alphan officers, she’s forced out of her shell and into a whole new world of passion.  Even as the bonds they share tighten and satisfy needs they’d never imagined, Alisa, Felix, and Mikel are soon faced with danger and betrayal from the machinations of humans and Alphans alike. The Alphans will have the chance to rescue their fair damsel after all, but will they make it in time?

Purchase links: Amazon | All Romance eBooks | Evernight Publishing


J. Lore needs three things; strong, black coffee, time to write, and…well…you can guess the third. When she isn’t inventing fantastical tales filled with passionate people, she’s shaking sriracha on whatever she’s eating or reading about the Justinian plague. For updates on her erotic romance releases, visit her at http://www.jjlore.com/ She’s also on Facebook, Twitter,  Goodreads, and Amazon.